I love having a fifth grader. My daughter is fun and smart and savvy and actually helpful (I know, it will happen for you, too, toddler mama!) to me quite often. But there are some crazy challenges about raising a ten-(almost eleven) year-old girl.
First of all, “Growing and Changing” is fully underway. This is that unit, my friends. The talk. The sex education/puberty unit. And my daughter and I are having some seriously deep conversations, almost daily, about what they learned. For that I am supremely grateful. Awkward though it may be to discuss ejaculation and whether squirrels have sex (yes, both recent conversations we’ve had), I am so happy she feels comfortable talking with me about it.
Then there is 5th grade girl friendship issues. Sigh. Read more about that here.
And then enter in technology. We have had SO MANY conversations about her friends who have phones (she doesn’t and really wants one), apps her pals use that I’m not comfortable with, online safety . . . it can be super overwhelming. We aren’t ready for a phone quite yet, but know it is coming soon. She has an ipod of her own, which she loves, and the kids use technology at school ALL the time. She asks me a lot of questions, and to be honest, I mostly feel like I have no idea what I’m doing. At all. Like I’m making it up as I go.
I’ve read a lot of books, articles, blog posts, and the person who has helped me the most is Galit Breen, author of Kindness Wins. Her course, Raise Your Digital Kid is practical and do-able, full of concrete ideas and tips, and most importantly it is REAL and compassionate. She teaches parents about setting limits realistically and with clear understanding, encouraging open communication with kids, and finding a balance between tech and tech-free time.
And she doesn’t make technology the enemy either, which is refreshing. Her articles, handouts, checklists, and classes have given me a lifeline to feel like I am actually competent to navigate technology with my daughter. (Huge exhale)
Her latest version of Raise Your Digital Kid releases May 15th, and there is still time to sign up! I am signing up myself again, just simply to go through the class with new people and to see what extra goodies she has added. Here’s an idea: let’s do it together!
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I’ll see you in class on May 15th– let’s tackle this stuff together!
**I am an affiliate for this course, which means I receive a commission when you enroll. However, I only promote courses I truly believe in, and I am absolutely taking it myself this month!!
Stephanie! I love every single word in this post–thank you for being the kind of mom who is proactive about this stuff. Your sweet girls are so lucky to have you! (*As am I to have you in my mama tribe!)
Tucker has my old phone with a new case but it’s not an actual phone. It’s more of a camera I guess? Still. He’s seven and likes to say “I have a phone.” Help me when he knows and cares about an actual one.
Hunter and Audrey got their phones at 12/6th grade. We’ve had some issues lately with both. We’re contemplating taking the phones and swapping for a flip phone with no data plan. Our big issue is distractions. And in high, they’ve given up. Kids can do pretty much what they want with their phones.
My oldest is almost done with 6th grade and that is when he will get a phone. My husband is pretty adamant that it will be a flip phone. I’m really torn on whether I agree with or agree with my son, who wants a smart one.